IT'S TOTALLY FINE

 Dear reader, It's okay to outgrow friendships. 

I was listening to my favourite podcast a few days ago, and they discussed a friendship dilemma that brought back a recent heartbreak: which is the fact that I might have lost one of my longest friendships. I have been too afraid to admit this to myself for the longest time because that person had to be the friend I knew when I first became conscious of what friendship was—my first BF, my BFF, the person I wanted to start a fashion brand with at age seven. I could go on and on listing memories, but then we would be here all day. 

Friendship heartbreaks are the worst, and they are not spoken about enough. How do you explain that you don't remember the last time you spoke to someone whom you used to speak with every day? How do you explain that your "for lifer" only texts you once a year now, with a meagre "Happy Birthday"? How do you explain that the only thing you have in common with your one-time best friend is now TikTok reposts? 

A lesson I have learned recently is that there are friends for a reason, for a season, and for a lifetime. Not everyone that comes into your life is there for a lifetime; some are there to guide you through a particular period of your life, others to teach lessons. Don't be afraid of a friendship-to-acquaintance kind of story or a friend-to-stranger story.

 People grow, people change, people relocate, and there are so many other factors that cause friendships to end. Tupac once said, "Just because you lost me as a friend doesn't mean you gained me as an enemy. I'm bigger than that. I still want to see you eat, just not on my  table." Because you are no longer friends with someone doesn't mean there's bad blood; wish them well and move on (even the oloriburuku ones).

 There are friendships worth fighting for, and there are friendships that have reached their life span. I know it's not easy, but don't be afraid to let them go. Reminisce on memories made and remember lessons learned. 

I love you, and you should love you too. 

BUNMA💕

 SIDE BAR: I might start using Bunma more often.